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1. stop the blame
This is the most important, I mentioned in Chapter V, this point, if we tell ourselves, are already good, no matter what happens, We can easily change lives. If we do not, it is difficult to change anything. We all need to change, every day is a new day, our strength allows us to adjust life.
family grew up in the problems people have high sense of responsibility, they are used to brutally negative assessment of their own, they grow up in the tension and stress, childhood to them The feeling is: dirty, dirty
to create their own The body makes its own illness and pain, good things for their refusal, with food, alcohol and drugs to harm themselves.
We do not feel safe at any time, because we are only human, do not pretending to be perfect, it will bring us a lot of pressure, so that we do not see how the treatment itself. On the contrary, when we see their creativity and individuality, we would appreciate their differences, each person in the world plays a unique role, if we blame, it means that in the hide.

2. cease to feel the fear
always like to scare many of us own, making the situation more and more worse, we have a little small to very serious, always expect the worst of life, which is a terrible way of life.
before bedtime, how many people do the worst things in the imagination? Imagine as a child, like ghosts under the bed, which is no wonder that you will sleep. Child, you need to comfort the parents, but you've grown up, you can comfort yourself.
patients do so, they often plan for the worst, or to how to prepare their own funeral, they threw away their power, they believe that their life is left a number of medical data.
some people have this idea of ​​friendship, if friends do not call, he said that they have been rejected and abandoned.
work, too, if someone comments on your work, you will think that they must be laid off, you create the idea of ​​these paralytic , the actual thinking of these terrible is a negative self-suggestion.
If you find yourself habitually self-suggestion in the heart of the bad things, please think good things to replace it, for example: the beautiful scenery, Japan fall, flowers, sports or other things you like, whenever you find yourself when you're scared, you think of these wonderful pictures, telling myself , roses, beautiful Paris, yacht or waterfall, As long as you continue to do so will eventually get rid of this habit, of course, this requires practice.

3. patience and care of their own
Wolin wrote humor Arnold had one sentence: When you need to queue or red light, we will be very upset. We need answers, you need to get everything right away, we often do not because of his patience, so that the lives of others, unfortunately, does not bear that refuse to learn, we do not wish to learn or do not go through the necessary process to get an answer.
Please think about it, your heart is like a barren garden, full of thorns self-hatred, despair, anger, anxiety, stones, there are a old trees to be trimmed is called fear. If we can remove these evils, the land will become suitable for seed, you sow some seeds, planted the tree of joy and success, the sun will be shining on this corner, you irrigate and fertilize with love and care care for it, it will be so good!
the beginning, may not see much change, but do not stop, continue to take care of it, as long as you have enough patience, your little tree will grow, just like your heart as long as you choose the bright ideas, and wait patiently, you will eventually get the life you want!
each of us makes mistakes, errors in the learning process does not matter, many people like to blame their own are not perfect, if not perfectly in three minutes to do a good job something to consider themselves good enough, then it is equal to not give ourselves the opportunity.
takes time to learn anything, just the beginning, often feel not so good. To make you understand what I said, please take a moment to be a practice. Two hands together, please, no matter how grip can, please observe the hand of the thumb in, and then let go, re-grip, thumb on the other hand, the first you may feel a bit strange, even wrong, and now again, with the shake hands with the first method, and then use the second method, the first, second .... How do you feel? Not so strange now! Very nice! You already used to it, maybe you can learn two ways.
the same token, when we used a new method to do something, the beginning may not feel comfortable, then start the next conclusions. Please be patient, everything will become natural, to become normal. We will not be completely within one day learn to love ourselves, if we are to love myself a little every day, two or three months, we will become even more love myself.
mistakes is the way to failure is a valuable thing, it is your teacher, please do not punish yourself for mistakes. If you are willing to learn from mistakes, learn to grow, the final error will enable you to better.
Some people have always had to adjust their own, but always been a problem, we have learned the need to strengthen, rather than hands in the air , exclusion, said: out.

4. Take care of your mind
Please do not hate because of their negative thoughts and, thinking there is to build us, not to defeat us, not because of his painful experience was the self- responsibility, we can learn and grow from these experiences, spiritual care of their own, the feeling of abandonment mistakes, the recriminations, punishment and all the pain.
relax very useful, it can help us to feel your strength, tension and fear can only be closed to power. If you just take some time, relax the body and mind, no matter what, you can take a deep breath, close your eyes, the tension is released. Exhale, gently say to yourself
daily meditation, I suggest, please calm down, listen to their inner wisdom. Today's society, meditation becomes a mysterious, and difficult to achieve. Meditation is most accounted for the old, the simplest approach, we need to do is relax and quietly self-suggestion OM is an ancient sound, I often use in my workshop where it seems to work. We can repeat themselves,
Some people think that meditation is necessary to stop all the thinking, the actual is not the case, we can only slow down the speed of thought, it is floating state. Some people like to sit on the mat, with a pencil note of negative thoughts, like easy to let negative thoughts up to disappear. When we reach a point in this state we see these ideas (oh, there is fear, anger, there is love, there is a disaster, abandonment, there is happiness), the please do not ignore it, we are Start the wisdom to use their own power.
where meditation can, please develop a habit, meditate, when high focus on the strength of your body, you are connecting to the heart wisdom, you can according to their preferences, how to do anything, some people when jogging or walking meditation. Not because they use other methods, to think they did wrong. I like to kneel in the yard digging for me this is the best way to meditate.
imagine a positive picture is also very important, there are many techniques you can use. Carl. Simonton in the
It enables you to see beautiful, clear the scene to help you self-suggestion. Many people write to me, talk about self-suggestion to imagine the picture when I told them, the most important thing is to combine the characteristics and their own, or will not work.
example, a woman suffering from cancer, she imagined the body's killer cells and cancer cells to fight and kill the cancer cells. Then she began to suspect that their own methods right in the end, why did not effect? I asked her: cells, or to imagine a magician to change without cancer may be better. When my cancer, I imagine, go cool body wash all the bacteria. We need to make some do not harm the subconscious imagination.
been to sick relatives or friends as the patient is bad, imagine, they are very healthy, offer good wishes to them, remember, depending on whether they can heal themselves, if they can open yourself, you can teach people to give them some imagination and meditation tapes, does not work, offer them love it.
everyone can imagine, like your house, like an exciting sex, to revenge the person hurt you, really wonderful, our hearts can do to.

5. praise their own
accused of destroying the inner soul, and praise can shape the soul. Please know your strength, we are a manifestation of infinite wisdom, if you despise yourself, that you underestimate the power of creation, starting from the smallest things, tell yourself you're good. If you only try once to give up, it certainly has no effect, even if only to make a sub-Chung, please work! If you're learning new things, never tried, believe me, you will feel more relaxed and easy, please for your work!
When I first Church of Religious Science in New York speech, my heart was pounding, I remember very clearly, it is Friday afternoon, listening to Speech to the problem on paper, mounted to the basket to me, I answer questions on stage one by one, and make the appropriate treatment. After all, I am down from the stage, said to himself: his
If the first time I despise myself, and the second would despise myself, so I would be afraid of speech. After several hours, I started thinking, what areas need to make some adjustments, I did not make sense that they have made mistakes, I carefully appreciation and congratulations to his performance. Since then, when my sixth lecture, he had already very skilled. I think we can use this method to every aspect of life. I often speak at the meeting, which cultivate my ability to think independently is very good.
Whether you think you would suit, please talk to let themselves be good things. We have said, ?
you think you are good enough, smart enough, high enough, enough beautiful? Your presence is to it? You know, you came to this world, the purpose, not for a few years for a new car. What you need to enrich your life? Would you like autosuggestion, imagine the good things, to restore the treatment yourself? You are willing to forgive it? Would you like to meditate on it? In order to change your life and realize their ideals, how much effort you put in?

From Louise Sea